Garage Gazette
General Category => GENERAL DISCUSSION TO INCLUDE OFF TOPIC => Topic started by: bonneyman on November 23, 2020, 10:28:40 AM
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Last time I saw him was in July 2009 when I gave him a bicycle I made for him. Lost contact since then. Now 11 1/2 years later while dropping the car off at the mechanic's shop I see him and recognize him. Had about 15 minutes to talk. Made plans to get together and reconnect.
Dang it's been a long time. Funny how God works out these "divine appointments". O:-)
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you had a lost brother since 2009? i have 3 sisters and we may not alwys get along, we keep in touch and surely have not lost each other.
unless the guy is a complete tool (he may be and that may be the issue) stay in touch. i wish i had a brother.........
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Yeah, it's a long story. Mostly pride and independence. Probably my end is the bigger problem. Hard to say, the family has always been this way.
This will be the second time I've run into him after long periods of time when I'm just going about my day and then recognize him at a bus stop or on a construction site. Exchanged phone numbers and will be reconnecting for sure.
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Damn, that's a long time to stay out of touch with family. When all is said and done on this earth, it's family that endures.
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Good bor you.
My dad doesn't talk to his second oldest brother ( oldest screwed the family over and is SOL) over petty reasons and it's a shame.
Basically we went out and stayed with him for vacation one year when I was a kid and he spent half the time off with his buddies and we barely saw him.
That and my dad expects him to call like he said he would and won't make the call himself , nothing I say will change his mind.
I talk to my older brother regularly, and because he lives near my mom I do talk to my broster ( he's gay, and we tease but it's okay) but my two sisters live out of state and always picked on me growing up so I don't really care to deal with their drama.
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My family was always too much stressful unnecessary drama. And when all contact was broke long distance accusations would come to try to provoke a reaction.
The last was five months ago. A quite ugly one. I haven't seen parents in 30 years and siblings in about 20. Damn FB is the current low efforts vehicle to find us, but quite easy to ignore.
Dad just died, I was told. I couldn't react as all feelings are gone. At least the preaching can stop now.
It's not painful nor even a passing thought anymore. Five of us went and found a future as best possible for each. No two went even remotely the same direction for it.
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My family just isn't close. I talk to my brother about twice a year, we call each other on our birthdays, but while we used to spend time together just hanging out, it seems to have fallen off around the time of his last divorce. My wife came from a very small family, an only child. And once her parents passed, she has become focused on me and her work.
Good on you for making sure to keep in touch with him. In these times, things like that are what we need. And it reminds me, I need to call my dad's widow. Make sure she is doing OK.
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I have two older brothers, much older. One is 12 years older than me and the other is 17 years older. Like bmwrd0 my brothers and I talk about twice a year and on birthdays. They both live in Austin Tx and I'm 700 miles away. Only get to see them every 5 or 6 years. Wish we were closer but just didn't turn out that way. My dad was military, my oldest brother was, and most of my uncles were too so I never even grew up around much family. If it weren't for FB I'd never hear or see anything about ANY of my family.
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I wouldn't say my siblings are close but we are way closer then some of you guys. We do get along and until this year, many of us would get together Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Had a brother who since passed, wasn't the most pleasant person to be around but he wasn't terrible either. He and Dad were always butting heads.
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Family is family. That is something so take what is given.
Fortunately I am relatively close with my three sisters but my wife's family is another story.
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I'm the oldest of four, so my childhood was a bit different than the others. The family has always been strained. A few have mentioned drama - that's probably the best and most polite way of describing it.
I've got my quirks, but I think I'm fairly easy to get along with. Some of you have met me, and several have had dealings with me. I don't think I'm too big of a jerk. (Though I have my foot-in-mouth moments!) :character0029:
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I'm the oldest of four, so my childhood was a bit different than the others. The family has always been strained. A few have mentioned drama - that's probably the best and most polite way of describing it.
I've got my quirks, but I think I'm fairly easy to get along with. Some of you have met me, and several have had dealings with me. I don't think I'm too big of a jerk. (Though I have my foot-in-mouth moments!) :character0029:
Hope you can connect more with your younger bro George. Wish you all the best in that endeavor.
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My older brother and I fought like cats and dogs for 40 years. Never did get along. Our mom passed in 07 and we realized we were all we had left of the family. now we get along great. We went to the stock car races Saturday. I made him pay my way in :040: :040:
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It is just my sister and me now and we get along great as neither of us hesitates to help the other with anything needed.
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Wow glad you got back together. I talk to my sister's at least once a week. And like SK said we don't always see eye to eye but we work past it because we're family
Sent from the twisted mind of the Mudman
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And the other shoe drops!
My youngest brother just happened to have my other brothers phone number (he's gotten remarried and moved since I last saw him), so I called on Thanksgiving. He called me back about 10 minutes later - and we talked an hour plus! Buried that hatchet! That makes two reconnects and possibly healing of the issues.
Great holiday week. Have alot to be thankful for.
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And the other shoe drops!
My youngest brother just happened to have my other brothers phone number (he's gotten remarried and moved since I last saw him), so I called on Thanksgiving. He called me back about 10 minutes later - and we talked an hour plus! Buried that hatchet! That makes two reconnects and possibly healing of the issues.
Great holiday week. Have alot to be thankful for.
Excellent news!
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I have one sister a year younger than me. We were very close our entire lives, we would have an argument now and then but nothing serious until last year. We had quite a nasty argument and did not talk for over a year. In fact, had I not talked to her first we still would not be talking. The only reason I did call her was to put my 87 year old mother at ease over the situation. My sister said some really bad things to me that honestly, I won't forget so I will probably never get past that.
So while I did make peace, I don't really see anything going back to the relationship we once shared. I will not be making any big efforts to see her and I know from the past that if don't bother talking to her, she won't bother talking to me.
I figure at least when my mom goes hopefully we will be able to at least be civil to each other until the funeral is over. The folks made her the executor over their estate so hopefully she does not do anything really wacky. My sister has always had a way of becoming a bit pious about religion and sometimes she does some goofy stuff because of it, or in the name of it. I never discount that as a wildcard.
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I have one sister a year younger than me. We were very close our entire lives, we would have an argument now and then but nothing serious until last year. We had quite a nasty argument and did not talk for over a year. In fact, had I not talked to her first we still would not be talking. The only reason I did call her was to put my 87 year old mother at ease over the situation. My sister said some really bad things to me that honestly, I won't forget so I will probably never get past that.
So while I did make peace, I don't really see anything going back to the relationship we once shared. I will not be making any big efforts to see her and I know from the past that if don't bother talking to her, she won't bother talking to me.
I figure at least when my mom goes hopefully we will be able to at least be civil to each other until the funeral is over. The folks made her the executor over their estate so hopefully she does not do anything really wacky. My sister has always had a way of becoming a bit pious about religion and sometimes she does some goofy stuff because of it, or in the name of it. I never discount that as a wildcard.
The division of the estate at the appropriate time will likely not be a pleasant experience. My mom passed a couple years ago and my sister was executor of the estate. She was dragging her feet, just because that's her personality. I think the lawyer working with her said something (I had called him) because I got my cash share not long after.
I'm a patient person, but it had been well over a year, and the house had been sold over a year. What really annoyed me was she wouldn't let me know what was going on unless I went out of my way to ask her.
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I'm glad Bonneyman was able to reconnect and it's the perfect time of year.